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Tuesday, August 17, 2004

Player or Stayer?

Guy meets girl, girl likes guy then they fall in love and live happily ever after. This the image that movies and fairytales have always been portraying isn't always true in real life. Personal Experiences that i had made me more sure that this kind of life is non-existing. Hopefully this guide will help you out on how to identify a player and a stayer.

Meeting The Parents Session
If You have met his parents (as in he formally introduce you to them), and they go "Oh So You Are (Whatever Your Name Is)!" and starts talking to you about what you are doing.. example.. studying or working.. and making reference to what she heard from her son.. that's quite a hint that he's a stayer in the relationship.
As for the player, he won't even introduce to his parents.Perharps even if you do happen to bump into them outside with him.. all he would do is just to say a hasty hi/bye. After which he scurried you away with him.Just A thought, Which Player would introduce all the 20 girls that he dates for the year?

His Friends
If he tries to keep you from meeting his friends for as long as possible, it might be a tell-tale sign that he has something to hide. Preharps his friends has met his other 'girls' and is afraid that one of them might spill the beans to you. Or Is It that he is just more interested in being alone with you? (where you can both get intimate)? Take note of the way that he friends/mates treats you.. Are you the sexy kitten that everyone thinks of as a babe? or the intelligent witty that they enjoy having interesting conversations with? If they cant be bothered, probably its because you might just become another girl that he will drop in a week's time.

Your friends
They are also the best judges of whether he is a stayer or player. Other than your mom of course. An attempt to get to know your friends indicates his sincerity to get to know you more. Positive support from your friends will make you have more assurance of your relationship with him. As for the player, he wouldn't try to attempt to get to know your friends, preharps he would even try and hit on with your friend preharps even behind your back.

Secretive Behaviour
One of the biggest tell-tale signs of a player A player will always act as if you are interrogating him when you ask a simple question that he doesn't want to answer. For example, Questions like'what you did last night?' they will become squirmy then take awhile to answer followed by after which "why do you always ask so much?'It could be probably he is paranoid that he would let the cat out of the bag thus he thinks that its best not to tell you a single detail.

The Handphone
A player will never leave his handphone lying around for you to fiddle with. Even if he does, once you take it up he will get it back from you. That could be because he did have to do alot of explaining if you actually get to read his text messages. If he gets nervous and waks away every time his phone rings, it might be a conversation he doesn't want you to hear. He could be talking to another girl, or update to his friends about how you are so totally drawn to him. He could also make use of code words to talk to the girl or his friends, such that when you are around him you won't be able to understand what he is talking about.

Contactability
Is his handphone number all you have? When you ask for his home number, does he say " Oh you can always get me on my mobile." Do you know where he stays, where he works or studies? Take note that a player can easily change his mobile number when he gets bored of your calls, and a guy who takes note of that from day one is definitely a player.

Decision Making
You might feel secure and well taken care of if he makes decisions for both of you, but if he tells you how to dress, what to eat and where to go all the time, it could be because he is embarrassed by your mannerisms. All he wants you for is to show off! This guy isnt worth keeping, not to mention he probably might not be keeping you too!

The Little Details
A player remembers things like your first month anniversary & your birthday, a stayer will go an extra mile to get to know you more. For example,like you liking mushrooms, or the name of your first pet. Even things that you don't normally notice about yourself, like the way you eat your burger or the way you fidget when you are nervous.

Thought: i wondering guys who i dated b4 is a stayer or player? *pondering*

Fat Princess dropped by @ 8:01 PM

Typical
=A gal who is indulge in day dreaming=
=Always in her world of fantasy=
=Shopaholic, SHOP SHOP SHOP!=
=Sentimental=
=Timid cat=
=Paranoid=
=Romantic=
=Sensitive=
=Clean freak=
=Crybaby=